Parent Playbook 1 Overview

How to Help a Child Being Bullied

A Bullying Resource for Parents & Caring Adults

38% of kids find it challenging to talk to their parents about their struggles, including loneliness and feeling excluded.

The 2022 Choose Kindness Project Survey, conducted by Ipsos

How to Help a Child Being Bullied

This resource will explore the following topics in-depth:

  • Identifying bullying
  • Warning signs of bullying
  • Cyberbullying
  • Who is involved with bullying
  • What to do if your child is bullied
  • Risk factors for bullying
  • Different types of bullying

Resources are available for you

More than ⅓ of teens reported they have been bullied in the past year, but that number is significantly higher for some groups. Bullying happens in different places, but respondents most frequently report incidents at school.

The 2022 Choose Kindness Project Survey, conducted by Ipsos

What are the warning signs your child is being bullied

If your child is persistently and intentionally being hurt, either physically, emotionally, or psychologically, and unable to make the situation stop, they are likely being bullied.

Some common warning signs include:

  • Physical: unexplainable injuries, lost or destroyed items
  • Mental Health: Anxiety, avoiding school or friends, sadness, irritability, mood changes, physical ailments, etc.

What can I do if my child is being bullied?

This Playbook contains many details to support these 4-steps, including key points for talking to your child, examples of counterproductive advice, resources for helping your child, tips for speaking with the school, book recommendations, and more.
Prepare to talk to your child

It’s important that you feel equipped to have a safe and intentional conversation with your child about how bullying has affected their wellbeing. Our resources can help you feel prepared.

Talk to your child

There is no “perfect time” to talk to your child. It is important to start the conversation in a timely fashion so they can receive support when they need it most.

Work with your child to develop an action plan

Once your child has shared their experience with you, it is then time to develop an action plan to address the bullying. This step will involve you and your child working together.

Work with the school to take action

When reporting bullying to your child’s school, oftentimes, you will have to talk to many staff members (your child’s teacher, the principal, the school counselor…) It may also be helpful to understand what your school’s anti-bullying policy may be. It’s important to come to these meetings prepared and with a set action plans on how you can collaboratively work together.

Actionable Age-Appropriate Resources

We have resources for your situation:

  • How types of bullying vary by age
  • Physical and mental-health warning signs of bullying
  • Examples and hints for identifying cyberbullying
  • Insights into bullying across different gender identities
  • Details on bias-based bullying
  • Details regarding the bullying ecosystem
  • Toolkits for addressing cyberbullying, including reporting
  • 4-step action plan if your child is being bullied
  • Recommendations for preparing to speak with the school
  • Important definitions
  • Book lists
  • FAQs when involving the school
  • Conversation guides
Emergency Services

Call 911

Emergency: 911

Mental Health Crisis

Call 988

Mental Health Crisis: 988